The Naija Factor: Money vs Happiness.

One thing our Nigerian men fail to realise day after day, is that money can never and will never buy happiness. No matter how much you spend on a woman, or ‘think’ you spend on your spouse(which definitely includes taking care of the children, domestic staff and all other bills), it can never be a substitute for spending quality time with her in any way.

I once met a couple who have been together for close to nine years, have three beautiful children and all the trappings of wealth, yet the tension was so evident once you step into their home. I discovered, on having further intimate conversations with the wife, that the man’s idea of being a ‘wonderful hubby’ was paying for first class flights for their annual vacation, first class accommodations around the world, and snoring off on the couch once they are alone together!!

Oh boy!! What a laugh!!

Naija guys, please take some cues from your foreign counterparts and try to infuse a little bit of romance in some things you do for your spouse.
You have no idea how much she juggles to make your home peaceful and restful once you get back from work. Try rubbing her feet while you talk about the day’s activities, she will appreciate that a lot!!

How about putting your plate in the sink, even if you don’t wash them? Or bringing her a single rose on your way back from work? It doesn’t necessarily have to be big things like cars or diamond necklaces, as naija men are prone to thinking that’s what life is all about; those grand gestures that are announced from the rooftops to all and sundry to let them know you’re a ‘wonderful hubby’; a little kind gesture can go a long way in showing your woman you really care about her well-being and happiness.



As for us women, I would like to point out one salient fact: we internalize things a lot!!
Ladies, let your man know how you’re feeling. I don’t really care how you do it, either by shouting,singing,screaming or crying, na you sabi! but pass the message across to them. Its better to let your feelings out than to allow seeds of resentment to fester in your mind and heart. Trust me, I've seen and heard!!wink*

The thing is some of us keep looking for the so called ‘right and perfect’ time to err our views and grievances so that he doesn't feel like you're insulting him or hurting his oh-so-fragile male ego; but the reality is that there's never really a ‘perfect’ time to tell someone they've hurt you, or what they did you don’t like or approve of.
So buckle up gally,take the bull by the horns and I assure you,its the better solution than holding back and suffering in silence.

We really need to be more open about our feelings, because a lot of research has shown that we are emotional creatures. The way people treat us, especially our loved ones, really affects our overall health.
That’s why a lot of women in this country suffer mostly from high blood pressure and heart diseases.

So, Ladies & Gentlemen, food for thought!!Guys treat your women with more compassion, and Ladies, be more open to your other half.

I would really love to hear from you guys and gals, so please leave a comment, cheerio!!